Wade Mitchell's Purpose

I am a strong loving man SHOWING PEOPLE UNDERSTANDING LOVE AND RESPECT. - Wade Mitchell

Ernie Benesch's Purpose

I AM A MAN WHO LOVES HIMSELF AND WILLINGLY GIVES OF HIS SKILLS AND KNOWLEDGE TO OTHERS! - Ernie Benesch

Laurie Brandle's Purpose

I am a courageous woman inspiring others with my strength. - Laurie Brandle

I am a confident woman encouraging others to live their dreams ! - Shelly Wagoner

Light - Nelson Mandela

LIGHT

MY deepest fear is not that I am inadequate.
My deepest fear is that I am powerful beyond measure.

It is my light, not my darkness, that most frightens me.
I ask myself:
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who am I not to be?

I am a child of God.

My playing small does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around Me.

I was born to make manifest the Glory of God
this is within me.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And, as I let my own light shine,
I unconsciously give other people permission to the same.

As I am liberated from my fear, my presence automatically
liberates others.

paraphrased from Nelson Mandela

Brian Fowler's Purpose (Coach)

I am a STRONG AND CONFIDENT MAN INSPIRING OTHERS TO OPEN THEIR
HEARTS AND FIND VALUE IN ALL THINGS. - Brian Fowler

Faye Rodocker's Purpose

I LOVE ME AND BY BEING ME I GIVE PEACE AN LOVE TO ALL! - Faye Rodocker

Cheryl Schenk's Purpose

I am a trusting woman helping others to achieve their dreams. - Cheryl Schenk

Joel Wozney's Purpose

I am a committed and forgiving man educating others to lead by example. - Joel Wozney

Wally NIcholaichuk's Purpose (Coach)

I am a Loving Caring Passionate Man blessing others with quality time! -

Wally NIcholaichuk

Friends are Friends Forever

Friends are Friends Forever

Lyrics by Michael W. Smith

Packing up the dreams God planted

In the fertile soil of you

I can’t believe the hopes He’s granted

Means a chapter of your life is through

But we’ll keep you close as always

It won’t even seem you’ve gone

‘Cause our hearts in big and small ways

Will keep the love that keeps us strong

And friends are friends forever

If the Lord’s the Lord of them

And a friend will not say never

‘Cause the welcome will not end

Though it’s hard to let you go

In the Father’s hands we know

That a lifetime’s not too long

To live as friends

And with the faith and love God’s given

Springing from the hope we know

And we will pray the joy you live in

Is the strength that now you will show

We’ll keep you close as always

It won’t even seem you’ve gone

‘Cause our hearts in big and small ways

Will keep the love that keeps us strong

And friends are friends forever

If the Lord’s the Lord of them

And a friend will not say never

‘Cause the welcome will not end

Though it’s hard to let you go

In the Father’s hands we know

That a lifetime’s not too long

To live as friends

And friends are friends forever

If the Lord’s the Lord of them

And a friend will not say never

‘Cause the welcome will not end

Though it’s hard to let you go

In the Father’s hands we know

That a lifetime’s not too long

To live as friends

No a lifetime’s not to long

To live as friends

Though it’s hard to let you go

In the Father’s hands we know

That a lifetime’s not too long

To live as friends

No a lifetime’s note too long

To live as friends

Christina's Purpose

I am a woman who believes in her voice, while sharing hope and joy through the gifts God has given me.

WOOOHOO!!!!

Erica Sorensen's Purpose (Coach)

I am a beautiful confident woman inspiring others to live to their full potential! - Erica Sorensen

I Am An HONEST TRUSTWORTHY Man Showing Others LOVE And UNDERSTANDING ...... THANKS EVERYONE FOR AN AWSOME WEEKEND.....

Louise Gallagher's Purpose

I am a fearless woman sharing my unique gifts to create a world where spirits dance free in love, joy and harmony. - Louise Gallagher

David Slykhuis's Purpose

I am a worthy man; I bring joy to the world with my positive, fun-loving attitude !

I love myself as God loves me; I give of my heart so you can heal and be whole! - David Slykhuis

Rosemarie McGonigle's Purpose

I am a Precious woman, helping other hearts to heal, with honesty, gentleness, and trust. - Rosemarie McGonigle

Neil Steinwand's Purpose

I am good enough for me, glorifying God by inspiring others to use their gifts. - Neil Steinwand

Dallas Lazar's Purpose

I am a CONFIDENT man inspiring others to HAVE FUN!!!!!!!

Corrine Kerik's Purpose

I AM A FORGIVING WOMEN SHARING LAUGHTER AND JOY SO OTHERS CAN FIND PEACE AND SERENITY - Corrine Kerik

Courtney Jones' Purpose

I am a woman with PASSION, joyfully empowering others to feel valued and appreciated!

Richard Vanderzee's Purpose

I am a passionate, trustworthy man freeing others to release their inner child through laughter and play. - Richard Vanderzee

Randi Schoepp's Purpose

I am a confident woman who brings Freedom and Fun to others. - Randi Schoepp

Edgar Rodocker's Purpose

I am a dynamic man, mentoring by example!!

Daniel Cordova's Purpose

I am a strong confident man, inspiring others to discover their inner light and igniting their passions! - El Cordova

Debbie Leung's Purpose!

I am a Worthy Woman who LOVES Herself, Guiding others to Achieve their DREAMS - Debbie Leung

Brenda Duhaime's Purpose

I am a beautiful woman offering others comfort, love and hope. - Brenda Duhaime

Complete your homework

Please remember to have your homework for Givers II complete!! This time they check it!!

If you have lost the homework, scroll down on the blog to "Homework: Givers II", I have attached the homework as a PDF.

John Cleese and some "Deep Thoughts"

Click on the links to hear John Cleese's deep thoughts!

STARTING POINT (.46)
Philosophy has been the sparkplug for the lives of heroes

SCIENTIFIC LIFE (.42)
Should all our decisions be based on scientific facts?

DECISION (.40)
Decisions can be hard or easy, important or not. Should we always make them calmly? Is there no place for impulse or tradition?

Dog Breath = Have Fun

Alright on Saturday during the stretch there will be "dog breath", you know that "children's song", you may have heard of it, hey maybe you even got down with the children and 'went along' (good on ya!)

Now for those who didn't particpate you may have said to yourself the following "tapes":

- why? what's the point of this? It's for the "kids".
- It's a children's song, it's 'silly'

The point is to have 'fun' and sometimes being "silly" is the point.

When do you get the chance at work, or at home to be "silly; to have fun!?

Kids get it. Sad that as adults we forget this lesson.

If you haven't participated in "dog breath", when the song comes on, get down there and "you'll get the point".

T-Shirts, Noise Makers, Name Tags!

Don't forget the following for Givers II:

- T-Shirt (Bean is Believing)
- Noise makers, etc. (Your nearest Dollar Store will have party noise makers, let's make NOISE for the stretch on Saturday!!
- Your nametags!!

Everyone must call Andrea Matovich

Even if you fully paid for Choices, Givers I and Givers II, Andrea requires that you please call her ASAP to confirm you will be attending Givers II.

Phone #: 403-289-5019

Email: andrea@choicesseminars.com

If you've already called her - AWESOME!! You don't have to call her again to confirm.

Thanks!
Daniel

Creativity

Being creative. hmmm. Many of us wonder what it takes to become creative, some even doubt they "really" are creative.

Complete nonsense, we're all creative in different ways and a recent article in 'Scientific American: Mind' - Let your creativity soar (June/July 2008) demonstrates that our ability to become creative can be taught and be tracked.

According to one of the authors there are four core competencies of creative expression:
- People need to learn to preserve their new ideas (what he calls capturing)
- second to surround oneself with interesting people and 'things',
- tackle tough problems (challenge oneself),
- and expand their knowledge (broadening)

So, by 'capturing' they mean making your idea concrete be it by writing it down, sending yourself an email or even getting up and actually trying to do the idea in question. The important point is not to judge the idea itself. Next try tackling difficult problems, be it a crossword puzzle or a challenge at work, home, etc. Current research according the author that in tough situations multiple behaviors compete with each other and their interconnections create new behaviors and new ideas. Third, how do you manage your current social and physical surroundings? Fine at work one may not control the social millieu however you can change your physical environment (i.e. your desk). This is related to 'broadening', that is keeping your knowledge base diverse, the more interesting and diverse the things and the people surround you, the more interesting your own ideas become.

Homework!! Givers II

Yes, we have homework!!

In case you forgot or have lost your homework, I have attached the Givers II homework!

Click on the URL below:

http://sites.google.com/site/beanisbelieving/

Thanks!
Dan

Bean is Believing - Facebook

In case you missed Neil's past email, Neil created the Bean is Believing group in Facebook.

http://www.facebook.com/

If you're on Facebook & you were part of Choices in June, you may join!

Description:	A group for people who attended Choices Calgary in June, 2008 to keep in touch.

REBT and You

They say always write about what you know...one of my "hobbies" which I'm getting back into is 'public speaking'...one of the biggest fears which amazingly beats fear of death is the fear of public speaking!

Fear of public speaking affects people in many ways.

Some people I saw were so afraid of public speaking that it affected their lives; they didn't apply for better jobs because the position involved speaking to groups.

Others do get up and speak but their fear makes them less than effective communicators. The result is all too common - trembling, speaking too fast and too softly, memory vanishing making them appear disorganized or silly. Often speakers will then over-prepare or read from script making their talk less natural, less relaxed.

The method I was taught to gain confidence and relax was REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy), basically REBT looks at the fundamental cause of your speaking anxiety, essentially what you are saying to yourself.

Now common-sense would have you believe that in public speaking that the following self-talk is what you need to say, such as; "I've got to be entertaining. It would be horrible to be boring." or "I must come accross as credible." or "I must not make any mistakes."

Now many people are aware of this self-talk and resort to "positive thinking". They say something positive to themselves such as, "I am a entertaining speaker."

But there is a fundamental problem with this kind of reasoning.

Deep down in their hearts they may not believe this. Because if it were true, why try so hard to convince yourself otherwise.

REBT teaches you to recognize and then counter or dispute the beliefs that lead to the way you talk to yourself.

So, for example, if you're saying to yourself that you must not make any mistakes, REBT would have you look at that statement and see if it's supported by any evidence.

Now where I used to work there was an account manager who believed that she could not make any mistakes in front of clients. As a result she felt more pressured and actually made more mistakes that she was trying to avoid. When she spoke, she would get choked up, she would lose her memory, she even suffered from head-aches!!

When analyzing the truth of her statement, I discovered that many of our co-workers had made mistakes during their presentations in front of stakeholders, but that it didn't result in anyone getting fired or reprimanded. So here was evidence that COUNTERED her self-talk. The statement that she must not make any mistakes was clearly untrue.

As a result she came to the conclusion that she would like to give error free presentations but that it was silly and unhelpful to DEMAND that she make no mistakes.

When it came to her next presentation instead of trying to be simply positive and convince herself of something was untrue, ("I can speak without making mistakes."), she simply reminded herself that she didn't have to be perfect. She later told me that her nervousness went down significantly and that her presentation was not only well received but her manager even noticed the difference!

So, next time you get nervous giving a presentation, check what you are saying to yourself. Is there evidence to support it? If not, stop kidding yourself and making things more difficult.

I really believe REBT can not only help in public speaking but in different areas of our lives.

Random

Back in 2005 I was blessed to have been forwarded this...it was originally on Ebay.

Don't ever take yourself too seriously and when you're feeling blue find something in your life to get you out of it! I feel this will help.

http://www.banterist.com/archivefiles/000286.html